Saturday, July 20, 2019

Stop Comparing Yourself To Others




Last Monday, I went to a JLO concert. It was a celebration of her 50th birthday! She is iconic and exciting! She is a great example of body confidence. All her costumes are SKIMPY
but she totally owns it. It got me thinking about how many conversations I've had with myself or a female friend about our bodies and how they are not as slim, tall, beautiful, etc as we want it to be. One of my very good friends, who doesn't read my blogs, actually said "I have shoulders like a linebacker." For the record, she doesn't. She's beautiful inside and out. 
I know that looking through Insta and seeing individuals with ultra-toned bodies going on these ultra fabulous outings can def make me feel like sh*t. I bet I'm not alone. Actually, I know I'm not because research shows that the time individuals spend on Facebook/Instagram, the lower their confidence. 

Be that as it may, rather than simply erasing all your online life accounts (what other place would you find cute animal images and videos?), attempt these strategies next time you end up feeling like your body isn't just like a Insta picture.

 Rundown all the cool sh*t your body has helped you do. 

Rather than looking in the mirror and contemplating what you don't care for about your body, rationally recognize all that your body can do. 

 Talk about your favorite body part

Maybe it's your butt or your hair. Ensure you're additionally concentrating on the things that you adore about yourself. A few people take a gander at themselves in the mirror and express loathsome words. In the event that they're stating it for all to hear, at that point they're hearing that—they're underscoring the issue.

Pick a body part that you adore and let people hear about it. Even better,  believe it! 


Affirmations are your friend

That's right, all the more conversing with yourself in the mirror. Be that as it may, truly, it works. 
Here is one I like and that I do: 

I can do anything I set my focus on. 

Rehash it to yourself until you feel like a certainty ninja. After some time, these assertions will turn into your real conviction framework. 

 Do decent stuff. 

Volunteering and different sorts of philanthropy work are a simple method to like yourself, regardless of whether you're simply giving a couple of minutes or hours of your time. If you need help finding somewhere to donate your time, check out volunteermatch.org

 Converse with yourself like a genuine BFF. 

Shower yourself with over the top compliments. You know how Leslie Knope always showers her BFF Anne Perkins with over-the-top compliments in each scene of Parks and Rec? Definitely—you ought to do that for yourself. This was my favorite ‘Ann, you beautiful tropical fish. You’re smart as a whip, and you’re cool under pressure.’ 
But the following one works too!



On the off chance that you discover yourself calling yourself moronic, or hating on your appearance in the mirror, ask yourself: Would I say this to my closest companion, or my sister, or my mother? 

 Fake it 'til you make it. 

Grinning, giving a strong handshake, imparting unmistakably sans filler words, sitting upright, and accepting compliments are all things that I try to do. Granted, I'm not great at accepting compliments but I'm trying. 
Regardless of whether you're not feeling sure, you need others to trust you are.

I hope these body confidence tricks can help you to celebrate your awesomeness!

xoxo,
Jessica Bailey